A happy and successful marriage is the dream of every married or intending couple. Love is the bedrock from the meeting point to the getting married point. Marriage requires work, Love doesn’t solve all your problems and it doesn’t automatically place your marriage on the bed of roses. Stress, boredom, poor communication, and mood swings come along in the entire course of marriage, the ability to go through this phase together and come out stronger is part of what leads to a successful marriage.
Wouldn’t you like to know the secret sauce to a happy and successful marriage? In this post, we will unveil 6 main ingredients to a successful marriage that will help you solve and also prevent marital issues and help you create and maintain a successful marriage.
I am certain this is what you need, join me as we dive into the main points.
6 KEYS TO A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
- COMMUNICATION
- Communication includes hearing each other out, which means you must have patience, be a good listener, be honest, not draw conclusions based on assumptions, be respectful and calm even amid arguments, and be open-minded. Creating a platform for healthy conversations is the way to go if you want a happy and successful marriage.
- You must respect the point of view of one another. You do not have to be correct always.
- UNDERSTANDING
- You must understand that your partner isn’t perfect, you both grew up and saw the world differently. Understanding your differences and working on them together is one of the ingredients for a successful and happy marriage.
- Love languages are often talked about, but couples don’t pay as much attention to this as they should. Understanding your partner’s love language is the secret to a happy relationship.
- MUTUAL RESPECT
- Married people often come to a place where they start to lose themselves, most of the time, this is done inadvertently, as expectations may grow over time. Once couples get comfortable, they easily slip into a complacent state and expectations form. This is only a matter of human nature, but in marriage, you should never come to a place where you get so comfortable and take your partner for granted.
- Respect your partner in private and also in public. Respect their opinion, and don’t wave them off, especially in public discussions. Respect them enough to call when running late, Sing their praises in front of your children, and Listen to them when they tell you about their day. It is such a simple gesture, and it matters.
- ACCEPTANCE AND FORGIVENESS
- Marriage is a union of mature people who have accepted themselves. For a successful marriage, there must exist this level of acceptance of the spouse over the other. Acceptance is the center point of marriage, and that was why there was a proposal and an acceptance before the marriage and for a successful marriage, this acceptance must be continuous. Couples must not be judgemental. Acceptance fosters tolerance.
- Marriage is a lifetime event and no grudge is allowed. As married couples, you must be willing to forgive and ask for forgiveness. Pride is what encourages the act of withholding from asking for forgiveness. A major relationship killer, lack of acceptance, is a trait associated with nagging.
- Change your perspective and start focusing on each other positive traits. This can be a complex key to embrace if you hold a grudge. Forgiveness can transform your marriage, you will move forward together.
- SETTING BOUNDARIES
- Another important key to a successful marriage is setting personal boundaries. Independence was rated extremely important in a marriage. To be happy in a relationship, we must be happy first. Boundaries help you achieve that and more, they:
- Make you take responsibility for your actions instead of blaming it on your spouse.
- Help resolve conflicts and prevent you and your partner from being hurt.
- Give you the power to change things for good as you are in control of your actions.
- Help you strike a balance between your and your spouse’s priorities.
- Prevent themselves from exploitation and manipulation.
- Allocate ownership and responsibility between you two.
- With that in mind, wives and husbands must continue to take out time for themselves, enjoy their hobbies, and spend some time apart.
- INTIMACY
- Romantic acts can be many – try giving her a flower someday or place a love note in his briefcase or backpack. Surprise him with his favourite meal, or watch the sunset together. Sex is very important to a healthy marriage. Sex should be regular. We suggest keeping it interesting by talking about what pleases you and adding any fantasy role-playing, positions, or bedroom props. After all, what is a successful marriage if it doesn’t let you get what you desire? We fail to realize that a simple thing such as identifying the reality of emotions can keep us on the right track. Behind every “hard” emotion is a soft one; Looking for the “soft” or vulnerable emotions will help keep you connected as you are better equipped to empathize with that person’s genuine emotion.
HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK AS A WOMAN
IMPRESS HIM ALWAYS
The fact that he is married to you doesn’t mean you should stop doing the things you do when you were courting. The things you do to make him go crazy over you must continue especially in marriage.
- Watch your weight – If he married you slim, try as much as possible to maintain a healthy shape and stature
- Dressing – “Ladies dress more beautifully when single than married” Don’t let this be the case in your marriage. Dress regularly to impress your man.
- Smell – We all know smell has a chord it strikes in a man. Get nice perfumes and smell good.
- Food – “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Surprise him with his best food often
FOCUS ON BETTER COMMUNICATION
No one knows how you feel better than you, if you want to be left alone or you feel like playing, going on a drive, or in for a date, let your man know. He probably has a lot going through his mind, he won’t know if you do not tell him. If he offended you or you need him to help you with some things, tell him calmly without nagging.
STOP JUMPING TO CONCLUSION
Things are not always how they seem. The fact that you saw a scenario played out in front of you doesn’t mean that is the fact of the situation. Do not start a fight based on a third-party narration. Always take your time to talk it out with your partner before jumping to a conclusion.
BE AWARE OF YOUR HUSBAND’S EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS
Men generally believe that the ability to stay in their pain zone without involving anyone is what makes them men. They end up wallowing alone in their pain and frustration, as his woman, you should always be able to figure out when your man is down. Do not focus only on his happy moods and moments. Be his greatest cheerleader and safe haven.
SHOWER YOUR MAN WITH PRAISES
Men are egoistic, we all know that. You can do anything but never hurt or tamper with your man’s ego. Appreciate him when he gifts you no matter how small it is, appreciate his efforts in keeping the family. Treat him as a king and watch him treat you as his queen.
P.S. DO NOT COMPARE YOUR MAN WITH OTHER MEN, YOU CHOSE HIM FOR A REASON.
HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK AS A MAN
OPEN-MINDEDNESS IN COMMUNICATION
Effective communication is the key to a happy and successful marriage. You should not forget that your woman isn’t a magician, she cannot phantom the things going through your mind at times. Be open towards her, make it easier for her to understand you, and help you where necessary. Dishonesty in marriage will result in ineffective communication.
DO NOT STOP DATING HER
Courtship and Romance shouldn’t stop after getting married. Do not stop making her yours, the little things you do before marriage should continue. The surprise flowers at work, nice compliments, dinner dates for you two, going on picnics, etc.
APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG
Men, do not let your ego stand in the way of your marriage. Always apologize when you are wrong, beg if you have to. Do all you can to rectify the error. Acknowledge your wrongs and mistakes, it doesn’t make you look weak instead it empowers you and strengthens your marriage to a happy and successful one.
SPEAK HER LOVE LANGUAGE
Know and speak your partner’s love language always, this applies to both. Endeavour to spend quality time with your wife and family, do not place work above your marriage and relationship with your family
As stated earlier, the road to a happy and successful marriage requires work. Marriage is an institution, we keep learning more about ourselves and our partner. Love is very important in marriage but it is not enough to make the marriage long, happy, and successful. Learn more, communicate well, attend seminars, read books, etc. I recommend this book for you to read and learn more.
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